Recently Stoya came out with allegations of rape against James Deen. This also coincided with the Sydney event of “coming out like a Pornstar” which I attended and listened to stories of how sex work stigma impacts our lives. Which was incredibly triggering for me as over the past 18 months I have personally endured the worst case of someone using sex work stigma to harm me.
Last night I had had enough of the smear campaign that I’ve been subjected to and posted a stat dec of a false rape collusion. This morning I removed it, because that one piece of evidence without context makes it look like Lucie Bee is my main aggressor, this is incorrect. Whilst she has played a role in perpetuating the smear campaign so have Ryan James and Bella Maree. But my instincts are telling me that Lucie, Ryan and Bella have perhaps been unknowing victims in all this. I feel that we’ve all been used and pitted against each other. And its time for me to finally speak up with evidence. So please as your reading the details of the events and the evidence because these performers are included please refrain from judging harshly. I’m not saying that the role that they have played is right, but more so I think that we are all guilty of being blind sighted and acting in not the best ways. Its unfortunate how one person can turn the industry against each other.
What I am talking about is nearly 18 months of online bullying, real life harassment and threats. Which is all directly related to Romeo who used to work for Popporn. And was assisted by the actions of Ryan James, Lucie Bee and Bella Maree, which then led to an industry backlash against me (lateral violence).
As anyone who has been the victim of character assassination or smear campaigns and harassment would know, the past eighteen months have been possibly the worst of my life. Trying to find the right way to stand up for yourself, trying not to cause harm all gets muddled. It’s also a time of significant psychological distress. Over the past 18 months I have been crippled with depression, I developed social anxiety, which led to me refusing to leave my house for weeks at a time. I turned to abusing substances to cope, which with coupled with the fact that I have been suicidal the majority of the time led to me making an attempt to end my life in January 2015.
Because I am the type of person to shy away from direct and public confrontation over the past 18 months I have tried to resolve these issues through reconciliation and mediation. I have tried resolving the issues of miscommunication between Lucie Bee and I through mediation, which she initially agreed to in October 2014, however unfortunately never agreed on a date and she continued with public libel. I have written to Bella Maree in January 2015, asking her to stop helping my ex Romeo harm me. I have sent legal letters to both Romeo and Ryan James again in January 2015 where they were instructed by my lawyer to cease their behaviour towards me.
I have also attempted to curb the gossip and false accusations by posting blog posts alerting people that I was under attack and that claims were false, and educating the community on lateral violence.
All these attempts to end this were unsuccessful and the campaign against me continued. As the violence by way on online bullying due to the success of the smear campaign has continued, and I’m not seeing an end in sight to the attacks. I’ve made the very heavy decision to play my last card, which is to come out with all the evidence of my lived experience.
I have been scared of speaking out, despite the evidence that I hold. But I can’t leave in fear and regardless of what is to happen to me. I cant live not even one more day without telling my story.
I’m going to keep this as factual as possible and only refer to events which I have evidence of.
Ryan James and I ended our relationship in December 2013.
In February 2014, I was sought out by Lucie Bee for assistance with an issue she was having involving porn and coercion. This is the stat dec from a person who witnessed the events.
As it involved Ryan I referred Lucie to speak to Romeo from Popporn. Popporn decided in support of Lucie, to not work with Ryan. A short while afterwards witnessing the friendship between Lucie and Ryan, I realised something wasn’t right. I implored Popporn, albeit unsuccessfully to overturn their decision and I informed Ryan.
This is an email sent from Romeo to, at the time an unknown potential performer, Summer Knight on 21 March 2014. He lists Lucie Bee, Anne Melbourne, Ryan James and Havik as all being blacklisted.
I want to address the allegation that I fabricate poor sexual health to harm performers careers in the porn industry. There was an incident in July 2013 where a performer I was cast opposite with engaged in unprotected casual sex in his personal life and at SEXPO, shortly before my scene with him. This performer had already had warnings about poor sexual health, which at the time I did not know about. This situation became apparent to the owner of Popporn who made the decision to not hire him again. It is producers not pornstars that determine who they will shoot.
Around this time I was working on an industry project, which was attempting to standardise industry sexual health standards, including testing and shoot lock down protocol, as this was at a time where performers were not supported by a number of producers to use condoms during scenes.
Performers did not react well to the introduction of shoot lock down, and did not want to disclose their recent sexual history to their co-stars. We saw stop shoots occur, which impacted on producers being able to get content and hurt performers financially.
Knowing that if performers could just be empowered to choose how they wanted to protect their sexual health and to fight the industry norm that condoms cannot be used on set (and a few other issues involving good sexual health role modelling in porn). I began my public protest to only shoot porn where I use condoms. I’m happy to say that I’m now seeing condom use across most porn companies in Australia.
There is absolutely no reason for any of the above stars named to be black listed. Even if a porn performer has a slip up, or tests positive, it should be dealt with by treatment and when the performer retests negative they should be allowed to work. This information should also be treated confidentially by the producers, not passed onto aspiring porn performers.
Around this time February – May 10th 2014, I was also having a casual rebound fling with Romeo. Whilst initially the relationship was happy and consensual, this changed. One example is how I was pressured by Romeo to let him film our sex for him to upload to the internet, which I refused causing friction. So I began trying to end my relationship with him. I was threatened that if I ended the relationship he would breach my privacy and ruin my career. I’m not going to go into detail here but I was fearful enough that I contacted the owner of Popporn about these threats and my growing fear on 28 April 2014. We worked on an exit strategy. When I did end the relationship I was subjected to verbal abuse and more serious threats, which I documented in an email to the owner of Popporn on 11 May 2014.
At this time Popporn and I had just finished shooting BLONDE. BLONDE was created as an equal partnership between Popporn and me with the conditions and finances set out in a contract. When the contract was not adhered to I sought legal recourse. Unfortunately due to Australia’s porn laws, its murky but we are virtually criminalised, I was informed that I legally could not pursue a case against Popporn; basically it was my fault for being in the porn industry in Australia.
In an attempt to save BLONDE, I tried to reconcile with Popporn. However shortly after this I was pursued by Romeo to once again have a personal relationship with him. When I notified him by email on 10 July, 2014 that I was seeking only a professional relationship with him, things deteriorated again.
Around this time Romeo rekindled a friendship with Ryan James and Lucie Bee.
In August, 2014 whilst I was at SEXPO, I was subjected to libel from a troll account and Romeo. On the Sunday, Romeo and Ryan James together attended SEXPO and would loiter around my stall. At one point Ryan stood a metre away from me for some time. His presence made me uncomfortable. I notified the stall owner, my photographer and a friend. Ryan was asked to leave.
The following week Romeo and Ryan submitted joint complaints to SWOP calling for me to fired. The complaints included the February situation between Lucie Bee and I.
Not wanting to rehash the situation and being aware that that year was fuelled with drama leading to possible miscommunications, I decided to approach Lucie directly to try to put the miscommunication behind us. See the following texts.
The next day I was informed by SWOP that Lucie Bee had called and was supporting Ryan James and Romeo, in the accusation that I had fabricated the events and was harming sex workers careers through false rape allegations.
At the same time, Romeo published my partial address in a porn scene on popporn’s website.
21 August, 2014 after flying to the US, I was detained, questioned and deported due to an anonymous tip off that I was a sex worker. I now have a 10 year ban from entering the USA, which doesn’t start until I retire from sex work.
Shortly after I arrived home, there was another incident involving rape allegations towards people close to me. I decided then that if the people who were against me wanted to see me walk away from SWOP then I would do that. So I resigned. What I hoped was that this would end the harassment and cyber attacks.
In December 2014, the owner of Popporn who wanted to make amends contacted me. And notified me that he removed the offending party from Popporn on December 14, 2014.
In January 2015 I was provided this email exchange between Bella Maree and Romeo where they colluded in an act of fraud in an attempt to use sex work stigma to have me evicted from my home.
At the same time I was curating a social media account and speaking about the impact of social media bullying and ways to deal with it in a positive light. Simultaneously I was being bullied on social media.
As you see the malicious gossip and rumours had spread in the industry, to people whom I’ve never met or had any dealings with.
These resulted in a break down and attempt to take my own life.
After my attempt my focus turned to my health. I focused on non-violent activism, I tried to not focus on the darkness and to keep everything high vibe.
I also contacted Bella Maree to ask her to please stop assisting Romeo to harm me.
But the cyber attacks never really ceased. This time from anonymous trolling accounts.
In July 2015, Popporn was finally able to publish this public statement in attempt to repair some of the damage the smear campaign of the previous year had caused.
I was again attacked on social media in June and July 2015.
Which then carried on to August, 2015.
On 22 September 2015, Romeo began uploading porn to porn hub. Included was BLONDE of which is an absolute contract breach and without my consent. (pornhub.com/users/romeodymondz).
At Melbourne Sexpo, on friday 6th November 2015, Ryan James after being advised to not approach me or my stall at Sexpo entered my stall.After a brief altercation he left.
Most recently I was anonymously provided with screenshots taken from a Facebook group where a member of SWOP, Lucie Bee and other sex workers were gossiping and mocking 2 clients and me. These screenshots contain sex workers legal names and clients full names so I will refrain from publishing this information. But I do hold it as evidence if needed.
Right now on social media we can see the extent of the smear campaign. I am being called a bully, a liar. By so many people I cannot count. I alone as one woman is standing up publically against my ex Romeo and the people he has recruited to attack me, Lucie Bee, Ryan James and Bella Maree.
What is happening on twitter right now, which happened in August, July and January of 2015 plus many other times in 2014 is bullying. Its repetitive cyber attacks by groups of people towards me.
And what is my crime?
I walked away from a relationship with a man.
What has happened is not ok. It’s not ok for a man to punish a woman for not wanting to be in relationship with them. It’s not ok for people in the industry to use sex work stigma or sexual health stigma against their peers. It’s not ok that I have had to read about myself from absolute strangers and that members of sex worker organisations have spoken defiantly against me. Its not ok that my contract for BLONDE was breached and the victim shaming that I have had to endure from within the porn industry, that I deserved all the above as I slept with a director.
This is not OK.
18 months is a long time to live through this. The mob mentality, the cyber attacks, the spreading of false allegations against me, against anyone just needs to stop. Cyber bullying is harmful, I know this because I live it, I shouldn’t have to be dealing with depression, living in fear, having panic attacks and fighting off suicidal thoughts.
Im moving on with my life now, I would appreciate it if everyone could move on with theirs.
No one deserves what I have lived through.